Monday, January 23, 2023

The Other Side of Tomorrow

 "Today's greatest labor-saving device is tomorrow".

                                                    --- Woodrow Wilson

Was the 28th U.S. President being facetious or was he serious when he said that?  Either way, he  was actually being truthful in a way, with a hint of sarcasm; we'll have to imagine.  I don't know in what context he said that except that perhaps he tried to elicit some humor - pushing today's chore into tomorrow, thus saving one's labor today until then. 


If not for this one little flaw in the human character, spelling would have been one word less difficult in the English language. But the Romans did originate the word - in Latin, naturally - from a combination of pro ("forward") and crastinus ("belonging to tomorrow"). A few centuries later, fourth graders had to deal with spelling it. Notably enough, later in their teen years, homework and cleaning their rooms were often managed into an art form of many shades of procrastination.  But then another president had a different message ..

"You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today".

                                                            -- Abraham Lincoln

One more word of wisdom from an unlikely source before we move on. I'm not sure if this was not ghost-written for the North Korean leader, quoted below. Worth noting however because it is ideologically or politically neutral, but it reminds us of the three clear  boundaries of time.

"There can be neither today without yesterday nor tomorrow without today".

                                                             -- Kim Jong Un

Of all the three delineated by the quote above, tomorrow is the most powerful one.  Yes, today is where we get to do anything but tomorrow is the one filled with many possibilities.  But yesterday is no less important. 

It was the former Filipino general who waded with Gen. Douglas MacArthur on the shores of Leyte Island, Philippines, upon the latter's promise of, "I Shall Return", that was the prelude to ending the Pacific war in WWII who said:

"I am a Filipino–inheritor of a glorious past, hostage to the uncertain future. As such I must prove equal to a two-fold task–the task of meeting my responsibility to the past, and the task of performing my obligation to the future".  

                                                                -- Carlos P. Romulo


He later became Secretary General of the United Nations and a Pulitzer Prize winner. In this famous photo, Romulo is the helmeted general behind and to the left of  MacArthur.



What he said applies to any group of people today or, for that matter, to any individual willing to contemplate what to do with the many tomorrows yet to come.  

Hopefully, we have learned from all the yesterdays that made us who we are today and the lessons learned we are able to apply today in the hopes that we pick the best decision from the many options we will face tomorrow.  We learn from the past, apply them today and go through the whole process again tomorrow.

The next quote says it best:

"All the flowers of all the tomorrows are in the seed of today"

                                                                         -- Croft M. Pentz

Alternatively, you may just want to sing a few bars from "Annie"

"Oh!
The sun'll come out
Tomorrow
So ya gotta hang on
'Til tomorrow
Come what may!

Tomorrow, tomorrow!
I love ya tomorrow!
You're always
A day
Away!"

                                                                                  
Hope you enjoy your today and think well of your tomorrow!






Sunday, January 15, 2023

The Other Side of Wealth



The most often asked question on the subject, almost always, "Is wealth the answer to happiness?"  The default answer seems to be the most neutral, if not one that is deemed free of argument, and that is, "It depends". Well, not really, because it leads to, "Depends on what?" And from there, the debate could ensue almost spontaneously, especially if it veers off into defining and arguing about, "What is happiness?"

Where does that leave us in today's day and age? It would help to first accept that life in general is a balancing act between being happy at one time, sad at another, ecstatic one day, miserable the next, because life seems to be more of a seesaw as opposed to a flat steady surface we could walk on without having to worry about falling or slipping. And there lies the phenomenon that is often less apparent. Worry.

If happiness is that wholesome state of mind, worry is the circular preoccupation that deters the mind from climbing out of a hole we made it dig for itself that results in thinking about something that is either not clearly defined or vaguely "gnawing at our gut". It is different from being concerned or cautious, even fearful of something real.  We can be concerned about our health, cautious of our driving or traveling, fearful of the dangers to an unattended  baby, gas stove left on, or the proverbial iron we forgot to unplug, broken glass on the floor, a cobra slithering by, etc. But, we worry about money.  And it is not just about not having enough -  for today and for years to come - but having too much is also a cause for worry.  Is it safe where it is kept or invested? Will it last as I continue to live like this and can I handle that moment when I can no longer maintain this lifestyle?

Happiness and worry are both weightless entities but in the seesaw of life they are so contentiously weighty that keeping them in balance is the key to an uncomplicated life.  But what does that really mean - an uncomplicated life? 

Can we rely on studies? So many had been conducted. Below is a quote from one of them.

"Happiness is definitely subjective, which means that it's particularly challenging for people to decide what makes one place happier than another. After all, a stunning vista with trees and mountains might be a city dweller's idea of misery. Luckily, it's not up to us. The Happiness Research Institute charts the feelings and emotions of people from countries around the world. It factors in how people feel about themselves, as well as how they feel about the world around them".

Ranked in the order 1-10, 1 being the happiest, we can see that they are not the wealthiest nations by any means but they're not the poorest either.

Austria, Canada, New Zealand, Sweden, Switzerland, Netherlands, Iceland, Denmark, Finland, Norway.

We won't argue with why those folks from the above ten countries feel the way they do but what about those from places where people do not have access to technology to respond to the surveys (because they do not have cell phones or computers).  What about those from the interior of the Amazon rainforest, the steppes of Mongolia, remote islands over the Pacific, nomads on the Kalahari, and many others?  People there most certainly have uncomplicated lives compared to societies in the developed world but they are never asked.

The short answer is that happiness cannot be purchased by wealth.  If a wholesome state of mind is our ultimate goal, then having just enough could be the ticket. But, having just enough is all relative!  

It might all come down to, in the end, that happiness is the absence of worry!

Now, since this is my continuing series on "the other side of .." let us look at the other side of wealth.

Mountainous regions make up only 24 % of the earth's land surface area. Of that total there are only 108 mountains on earth that are 7,300 meters (23,622 ft) and, of course, there is only one Mt. Everest and one K2, both located along the Himalayas.  Now, the reader may ask, "What has that got to do with the subject of "wealth"? Some of you may already have paused for a moment to have a glimpse of where this is going.  We'll get to it in a bit.

Mountains are the sources of all flowing rivers, streams and waterfalls - many of which fill every lake, marshes and water tables below ground. Ice melts from the Alps, the Himalayas, all other mountain ranges, sustain the water supply at the lowlands that surround them. Life on the surface of the planet depends on mountains; not just for the water to flow down but for carrying along with it nutrients to replenish lands along the river banks and deltas at the river's mouth. The fertile land of the Nile Delta and many other similar places depend on the yearly flow and overflow of nutrients that commence from every mountainside; ultimately into the  seas where many life forms depend on it as well.  Spawning of fish, primarily many species of salmon, depend on rivers and the spawning ground from up above, safe from predators, before they are old enough as young fish to swim downstream into the sea.

Now, let's talk about the "filthy rich" people. Compared to the mountainous regions on earth, more so to those with elevations over 7,300 meters, there are actually fewer rich people as a percentage of the population. But let's see how, throughout history, can the existence of these ultra rich people be justified, vis-à-vis the development of civilizations and for improving the lives of people. Or, to ask it another way, why do we really need rich people?  Aside from making them the object of contempt or jealousy, they are maligned as the economic equivalent of villains in the story of life.  That is one view. There is another.

Before there were rich people, a lot of the wealth - money and property - were in the hands of kings, conquerors, monarchs (of different flavors), and those with the power of the sword.  Prior civilizations were shaped by those with the wealth to finance and control an army  who wielded far superior weaponry to subjugate the general population, including those they conquered. Empires changed hands, wealth transferred from territory to territory.  

Briefly, it was late in the 17th century when wealth started to transfer to ordinary people with extraordinary skills at running businesses and industries. That was right about after the Black Death that ravaged much of Europe. Monarchies began paying competitive wages to people to work the lands as workers/slaves were decimated by the deathly effects of the plague; soon followed by fiefdoms and royalties giving up much of their land for ordinary people to manage and develop.  Shortly after that the industrial revolution followed.

Industrial empires grew out of Europe, Asia and in the New World, in succession. The new emperors were those who led giant industries and businesses. The tall empires of monarchies were replaced by business and industrial empires, effectively changing the concentration of wealth and power.

Mountains of monarchies were replaced by mountains of industry. Vestiges of the military might remain. They are known today as the industrial/military complex.

If one must think deeply enough, that is how the world economy keeps going.  Five years ago I mused about "Mountains To Molehills" where I bemoaned the idea from those living in the lowlands who wanted that mountains should be leveled to ground level for the sake of equality, although they really meant "equity".  There should be equality in opportunities but equitable results are not to be expected or demanded.

Industries created by Carnegie, Vanderbilt, Rockefeller, Ford, etc. created mountains that fed jobs that created goods that benefited millions of people.  Steel created railroads and factories, cars and trains and ships allowed unprecedented mobility.  It was mountains of industries that created today's modern society. Wozniak and Jobs, Hewlett and Packard, Sam Walton, Dell, Bill Gates, Bezos and Elon Musk are modern-day giants from whose intellect, vision and determination elevated their respective industries that are the source of thousands upon thousands of jobs.

Like the geological mountains that arose from unimaginable forces from beneath the earth, from the collision of tectonic plates, wealth from industries were created by those folks out of pure determination, willpower, intellect and visions, sometimes at the expense of their own personal lives, that made them into tall mountains. 

Innovations that led to new products that led to jobs are examples of new mountains created by those who in the process became wealthy. "Tax the rich", now a political mantra from some quarters, would then seem like asking for more water from the mountains when so much had already come downriver. 

Lest we forget, wealth and property has nowhere else to go but remain on the planet until such time that investments open up in Mars and other parts of the solar system. Let them have their mansions, their yachts and their jets because it would take jobs and peripheral businesses to create all those "toys". And they can't take it with them. Sooner or later wealth gets recycled, re-invested.

That is the other side of wealth.

Meanwhile, if you can be free of worry, not living luxuriously but managing well enough in the middle - not too rich but not poor - you will only be the envy of the rich.


                   

Monday, January 2, 2023

The Other Side of Aging





If we were to mark today, the present moment, as a single point along a straight chronological timeline, to the left of it are all that had already happened and to the right  are all that are yet to come. Imagine that line as one long stick horizontally in front of you. The first thing you will notice is that the present moment is either lopsidedly long to the left or the right of the stick.

To a young kid, if he or she were to hold the stick at the present moment, it would be lopsidedly short to the left and  lopsidedly much longer to the right.  He or she would like it that way because it means that so little  has yet happened in the past and that there is a long future ahead to the right of that stick.  On the other hand, as we age, the left side of the stick will be lopsidedly much  longer relative to the right because, well, we've been around that long already, which brings us to the proverbial good news, bad news, in a manner of speaking. The good news is that we have lived long, we've experienced a good deal of living; the bad news is that to the right of that stick is a shorter future, if not already too short. But does it really have to be good news, bad news?

No one can know where that present moment is relative to the right or left of the stick. In other words we can never know where the exact center point is, where the stick is perfectly in equilibrium because we can never know how much there is to the right of it, even if we know how long  to the left it had been (events that have already happened in our lives).  Obviously, as we advance in age, we can predictably claim with certainty that the right side of that stick is definitely getting relatively shorter. By the day, in fact.  

But that is not a bad thing really.

The other side of aging is not that grim.  For many of us, the left side of that stick means we made it thus far and it's been a long ride. The right side of that stick are actually bonus points.  We must claim those for as long and as much as we are able to.  Many others, the less fortunate among us, who have not moved much from the left along the stick when their life's journey ended, did not  and will not get to use the bonus points at all.

How are we to make use of the bonus points at the other side of aging?

I met Lamar over two years ago, before Covid19. He was sitting, rather awkwardly on the locker room bench as I passed him on my way to the shower after a swim at the pool. His head was down, shoulders hunched, and he was kind of leaning left but not moving. When I came back from the shower, he was still there on the exact same position. I approached him and asked if he was alright.  He said he was fine and that he appreciated my checking up on him.  His speech was labored, lacking eloquence but easily understood. He stood up gingerly, all six-foot-three if he stood erect, and we started talking some more. I can't help but notice that he had some skeletal problems where his neck was almost permanently skewed to his left shoulder with very little flexibility to turn his head. He had been retired like me, after a career of teaching at some college in Northern California.  He introduced himself - Lamar - and I told him mine.  He said, "OK, I will remember your name". He explained what his technique was at remembering. I decided then that I had better remember his name too, using the technique he just taught me in case we bump into each other again, .

It was three weeks later when I saw him again, at the lobby of the fitness center.  Sure enough he remembered my name. He told me the name of the manager of the club who usually sat at the front desk. I felt bad that I didn't even bother to know the manager's name myself who often checked everybody in at the front desk.

Lamar may have been physically impaired but his memory was still sharp. We saw each other a few times more and  then for months I never saw him. Then he showed up again.  He told me he had a heart attack. He went on to say that when he felt the symptoms - tightness on the chest and sweating - he drove  himself to the hospital. He had a double bypass and now he is back.  Still driving to the gym by himself.

Let me tell another anecdote. This other gentleman uses the pool as I do except he doesn't swim. He walks back and forth, using the swim lane for a sort of aquatic walking exercise.  We started talking because once I asked if I could share the lane with him (all lanes were used). We talked for a bit after I was finished with my 30-minute swim. He was a retired accountant, barrel chested and in a lot better shape than Lamar.  He was a regular gym goer until  about for over a month when I didn't see him. When I saw him again he told me in nitty-gritty detail that he had a nasal surgery, as a result of some serious sinus infection.  However, the next four, five times whenever there was an occasion to chat he would still be talking about the same surgery and post complications as if he was telling it to me for the first time.  It was weird because he would be telling it with the same detail like the first time.  Come to find out he has re-told the same story repeatedly to at least one other person at the pool.

Those are  two of what could fall under the category of the other side of aging and perhaps a few other categories in between. Lamar, though quite physically affected, his mental acuity was undiminished. He kept up with what was going on in the world and he had a nuanced opinion about them. The pool walker, while physically robust for a retiree, seems to get stuck in some kind of a memory loop, for lack of a term since I am not a psychologist.  But clearly the surgery must have been a major life event for him, finding it difficult to let go. But so did Lamar.

The other side of aging, to the right of that stick, is inevitably where we are all heading. Along that route there could still be a few stations and some stops, before the final destination.

I learned from Lamar and from that 76-year-old lady seventeen years ago who showed me how to swim better. She first said to practice, practice and learn as much from other better swimmers I encounter at the pool.  I did that exactly and one I couldn't forget was was what one gentleman told me about two years ago. He was actually coaching a young swimmer at the pool. He gave me some pointers and he corrected a couple of things I was doing wrong. He said, "You, me, countless others are not going to be Michael Phelps,  but you can be when compared to yourself a few years, six months, a week ago, if you keep learning.  Keep at it and look back to compare your present self to many versions of yourself, swimming and practicing, over a period of time and you will be Michael Phelps, albeit among your many selves". I guess what he meant was that we and anyone can continue to do better if we keep on learning.

There is no statute of limitation to learning is another way of putting it. And because learning (unless you are thinking acrobatics or rock climbing) is purely a mental thing, the mind will take you everywhere, if you let it.


Learning from many folks along the way, I summed it up via this acronym: CREATE (in keeping with how to commit information to memory).

Curiosity  - Where it all begins is keeping the mind busy by keeping it curious all the time.

Research  - This could be as simple as surfing the internet, which is a huge haystack, so first, one needs to know what it is to search for. If you've read or heard about something that piqued your interest, make that your proverbial needle in the haystack and Google the heck out of it.

Enthusiasm  - Once you've latched onto something - a potential hobby, a project, something you need to know a little bit more about, be enthusiastic in your efforts.

Acknowledge - Acknowledge both what you are capable of  and what your limitations are, as well. Capability supports enthusiasm, knowing one's limitations will avoid disappointments and surprises. Best time to learn a hobby is long before retirement but that is not to say that it is too late to start one now.

Tenacity - If by this time you have satisfied the above, you will then need to be tenacious in pursuing whatever it is you've set your mind on.

Explain -  It can be rewarding to share  if that is what you want, but explain it to yourself first (which by definition means you need to know your stuff) and then explain to those willing to know or learn from it.  This is the reason DIY on TV and YouTube is such a popular component of learning among all ages.

To never stop learning means that the other side of aging will not be so grim after all, and we are the only ones able to make it less boring.